Friday, November 17, 2017

Freebie Fetish Friday - Putting the TG in TGIF!

Well, if it's Friday, then it must be time to bend our way into the weekend with Freebie Fetish Friday.

Every Friday I search through the weekend's free titles on Amazon, looking for those that might be of interest to readers, fans, and lovers of bending gender and sexuality. Even if you don't have a Kindle, you can still download the titles through one of Amazon's free reading applications, and covert it (if need be) with Calibre. I can tell you I do most of my reading on my tablet, using Kindle for PC, and it works beautifully.

Please do be sure to check the price before downloading anything, though, as most freebies are limited time offers, and some are specific to certain regions.

                                          

    

Enjoy!

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Back Where He Belongs by Isobel Starling (#gay #romance #petplay)

Back Where He Belongs is a sweet, happy, funny romance about two adorable men who reunite after years apart . . . and indulge in a little kinky puppy play. Yes, I know what you are thinking, but the combination really works. Isobel Starling does such a marvelous job of establishing Kier and Douglas as characters, establishing their history, and deepening their relationship, that the transition from awkward reunion to hot, kinky sex is not entirely natural, as if the story could not have gone anywhere else without us raising our eyebrows.

This is a story about love, trust, and commitment. Kier and Douglas were madly in love, once upon a time, but Kier was still very much in the closet and not ready to proclaim his love to the world. It is pure chance that reunites them, but there are issues to be worked through before they can think of being back together.

I loved how the story played out, with Kier's desperate longing seemingly denied at every turn. It is not a harsh story or a cruel story, not by any means, but a realistic one where a grand gesture is needed to re-open another's heart. There is even a little bit of comic mistaken identity to cast some doubt as to where Douglas' heart lies. The puppy play is both a callback to their happier times and a gateway to their future, with the submission, the power play, and the role of belonging at the heart of the story. It is only a small part of the story in terms of page count, but such a huge part in terms of significance.

If you are a fan of M/M romance, true love, and second chances, Back Where He Belongs is just an altogether lovely story.

Isobel’s novel "As You Wish" (Shatterproof Bond #1) is an Amazon Best Seller on Amazon.com and Amazon France. Nine novels into her writing career Isobel has just released The Shatterproof Bond box set which contains all three novels in the series, and the first book in the M/M Romantic Comedy mystery series "Dick and the Sidekick" -"Detective Fox and the Christmas Caper"

https://isobelstarling.wixsite.com/
@isobel_starling

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Double Boomerang Vol.1 by Mercedes Quinn

Having gotten to know Mercedes Quinn a little bit over the past few months, and knowing how much work she put into Double Boomerang Vol.1 A Tale of Revenge Gone Wrong, I really wanted to like it. It sounded like an interesting concept, and it really does have serious potential, but the execution is somewhat awkward.

Early on, this reads like a script - or like the narrative bubbles for a graphic novel that has yet to be illustrated. It is told in the present-tense, with short sentences, and an emphasis more on action than description. About a third of the way through, though, it changes, taking on more of a short story feel, and it switches to the past-tense. Unfortunately, the mistakes with spelling, grammar, and word choices continue to be distracting.

If you persevere and stick with it through all that, there is a very kinky story here of capture, bondage, punishment, forced feminization, and mind control (or conditioning). There are some very inventive scenarios in Christian's transformation, and he is subjected to some innovative equipment in his journey to Christina. Sexually, it makes for a very exciting story, and one that is a lot of depraved fun.

Double Boomerang Vol.1 has a lot of potential, and Mercedes Quinn is a creative author with a lot of imagination, but this could benefit from the polish of an editor.

Mercedes Quinn knew at 13 that she was in the wrong body and withdrew into herself because her mother came in on her while shaving her body hair away. She has been introverted for nearly 30 years of her life. After seeing shows like Jerry Springer, she realized that she was a Transgender woman."
https://www.facebook.com/groups/TgirlMistressQuinnBrand/
@MQTgirlMistress


Monday, November 13, 2017

You and Your Gender Identity by Dara Hoffman-Fox (#trans #nonbinary #queer)

While I have read a lot of gender guides, self-help, and reference books over the years, what sets You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery apart is its interactive nature. This is less a book to be read, and more something to be experienced. Dara Hoffman-Fox guides us on the journey, setting up the questions and sign posts along the way, but leave it up to the reader to determine their own destination.

Dara opens the preface with a reference to Joseph Campbell and the idea of the heroic journey, which make sense because storytelling is integral to the book. We are invited to define ourselves as characters, explore our motivations, examine our back stories, and set out the story of our gender journey - our logline. It is almost like a transgender role playing game session, only with a licensed therapist instead of a game master.

Every reader will take something different from the book, but given the emphasis on mentors throughout, I thought I would explore a very personal take on what resonated with me - aside from the storytelling aspect itself, of course.

Building a Support Team is pretty basic stuff, but it means a little more to me of late. Growing up, I had no mentors, no bodyguards, and no support team. Looking back, I wonder, if I could have counted on just one person to listen, to understand, and to care, how differently my life might have turned out? We cannot change the past, but the future is always open, and having had the chance to act as something of a virtual mentor to a few people over the last year, I have an even greater appreciation for what a difference that support team can make.

The Role of Shame and Guilt struck me deeply, a chapter that asks us to look back at where those feelings come from, how they impact us, and how much they control our lives. I know the exact moment that shame and guilt entered my journey. I was in high school, relatively comfortable with my blossoming gender identity/expression, and thinking about university as a fresh start. I was confused, but I was also excited. And then I came home from school to find my mother had been snooping, had found everything (clothes, makeup, wig, falsies, books, etc.), and was absolutely disgusted. She taught me shame, she taught me guilt, and she forced me to begin the familiar cycle of guilty indulgence and shame-filled purges.

Keeping in Mind the Big Picture bothered me a bit, because it opens with so much discussion about internalized transphobia, but it goes on to share some fantastic thoughts on our identities and our sense of self. The main reason I bring it up, though, is the lengthy questionnaire at the end of the chapter (31 questions). It took me days to complete it, and the way it made me organize my thoughts and reflect on my sense of self was invaluable.

Deconstructing Gender is, perhaps, the most interesting section of the book. It is here that Dara gets into discussions of transgender, gender diverse, non-binary, and gender dysphoria. There is a bit of everything in this chapter - definitions, short questionnaires, checklists - with some really encouraging explorations of being non-binary. What spoke loudest to me, though, was the section at the end about removing gender from the equation, looking at interests, behaviors, and appearances on their own, free of stereotypes and expectations.

Wrestling with Uncertainty hit me hard too, especially, the section that asks, "Is it actually this . . . or is it just that?" So many of the questions I asked myself after that introduction to shame and guilt are captured here. There is a lengthy checklist, and I am sorry to say I have a lot of tick marks on that page - Am I really just gay/lesbian? Is it just a fetish? Am I really a cross-dresser? Is this just a kink? - the list goes on. Some of those questions predate that introduction, but the bulk of them only came about after I was forced to feel so disgusted with myself. I love how Dara breaks the questions down into clusters, and found the fetish/kink cluster to be particularly interesting, especially how harshly she dismisses the "dangerous and deceptive" model of autogynephilia.

Putting It All Together is where, well, everything comes together, helping us to determine all the possible destinations of our gender journey. Dara reminds us that it's okay to be wrong, and okay to change our mind later. The lengthy questionnaire from Keeping in Mind the Big Picture is repeated here, allowing us to explore how much our ideas and thoughts have changed over the course of the exercise, and I loved the gender identity options - there are approximately 90 listed, including a few that are culturally specific.

If you take it seriously, and put the work into it that it requires, You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery is by no means an easy read (or a comfortable one), but it is an invaluable experience. Nothing can replace the one-on-one experience of a licensed therapist, but Dara Hoffman-Fox has done a wonderful job of expanding her services to a virtual pool of clients.

Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC is a queer-identified gender therapist, writer, educator, and transgender rights advocate. Frequently serving as a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues for the media, Dara is a prolific thought leader on the topic of gender identity whose articles and videos have empowered thousands worldwide. Dara provides educational resources through a blog, YouTube channel, social media networks, trainings and presentations.

http://darahoffmanfox.com/
https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc
@darahoffmanfox


Friday, November 10, 2017

Freebie Fetish Friday - Putting the TG in TGIF!

Well, if it's Friday, then it must be time to bend our way into the weekend with Freebie Fetish Friday.

Every Friday I search through the weekend's free titles on Amazon, looking for those that might be of interest to readers, fans, and lovers of bending gender and sexuality. Even if you don't have a Kindle, you can still download the titles through one of Amazon's free reading applications, and covert it (if need be) with Calibre. I can tell you I do most of my reading on my tablet, using Kindle for PC, and it works beautifully.

Please do be sure to check the price before downloading anything, though, as most freebies are limited time offers, and some are specific to certain regions.

                                                  
 

Enjoy!